You are not a problem to fix
Hi Reader! I'm so glad I can resume my regular writing which, as you all know, is something I deeply enjoy, especially your feedback! ❤️ This week, I've had a chance to reflect on something that often comes up with many of my clients (and me!): the imperative desire to "fix" ourselves. To fix our pain, repair our personality, undo our past, correct our reactions, smooth out all the inconvenient parts of being human. And I’ve been thinking about why this approach is actually...
12 days ago • 4 min readWhen “I’m fine” becomes avoidance
Hello Reader! I hope you are well. When anyone asks you “how are you?”, do you, like me, answer automatically, “I’m fine,” even though you may not be? It’s an interesting social convention, like a ritual opening, but one that potentially masks the deeper regard we hold about ourselves. Most of the time, the person asking doesn't expect a complete inventory of our physical, emotional, relational, and existential state. Imagine answering honestly every single time, at school drop-off, in the...
4 days ago • 5 min readMais qu'est-ce que le *mouvement vient faire là-dedans ?
Hello Reader! Bonjour Reader! J’espère que vous allez bien et que vous profitez de l’arrivée de l’été, où que vous soyez ☀️! Il y a eu de nombreuses semaines où ma vie s’est invitée dans ces courriels, et ce fut toute une aventure! Appelez-moi optimiste, mais j’ai tendance à trouver des occasions d’apprendre dans tout ce qui m’arrive. C’est aussi ma façon à moi de traverser les choses, je crois. Alors, avant de reprendre nos conversations habituelles sur les manières étranges et merveilleuses...
19 days ago • 5 min readWhat's *movement got to do with it?
Hello Reader! I hope you are doing well and enjoying the arrival of summer, wherever you are☀️! There have been many weeks when my life inserted itself into these emails, and it's been quite a ride! Call me an optimist, but I tend to find learning in everything. It's also my own way of coping, I think. So before we return to our usual conversations about the strange and beautiful ways in which our brains keep changing, since quite a few new readers have joined us in recent weeks, I wanted to...
19 days ago • 3 min readCette semaine, on se (re)lève ! 🌱
Hello Reader! J'espère que tu vas bien. Les choses reviennent à la normale pour moi cette semaine : je me plonge davantage dans mon travail et je commence à retrouver un peu de joie. Je vous souhaite la même chose! ❤️ Réflexions J’ai beaucoup réfléchi cette semaine à ce que signifie "se relever". Pas à la version cinéma, où on ressort d’une épreuve plus fort, plus sage et entièrement transformé sans effort. La vraie vie est rarement aussi simple, et le rétablissement n’est presque jamais un...
25 days ago • 3 min readThis week, we rise! 🌱
Hello Reader! I hope you're well. Things are back on track for me this week, as I delve deeper into my work and I start to be in touch with more joy. I wish the same for you! ❤️ Musings I have been thinking about rising this week. Not the triumphant, movie version of rising, in which we emerge from difficulty stronger, wiser, and entirely transformed. Real life is rarely that tidy, and recovery is almost never such a linear process. I mean the quieter process of finding a way to move again...
25 days ago • 2 min readLes risques qui nous font grandir
Hello Reader! Dans les derniers numéros, j’ai écrit sur l’appel au changement, et sur la différence entre l’envie de fuir l’inconfort et cette forme de liberté plus discrète, plus exigeante aussi, qui vient lorsque nous restons présents assez longtemps avec notre douleur pour pouvoir choisir autrement. Ces derniers jours, j’ai beaucoup pensé à ce qui vient après, parce qu’une fois que nous commençons à comprendre la liberté comme autre chose qu’une échappatoire, nous finissons inévitablement...
about 1 month ago • 3 min readThe risks that keep us growing
Hello Reader! Last few issues, I have been writing about the call to change, and about the difference between the urge to escape discomfort and the quieter, harder kind of freedom that comes from staying present long enough with our pain to choose differently. These past few days, I've been thinking about what comes next, because once we begin to understand freedom as something other than escape, we eventually meet the question of risk. Musings As you know, I think of healing as learning, and...
about 1 month ago • 3 min readQuand le changement vous trouve
Hello Reader, Bonjour Reader, Cela fait presque un mois que je n’ai pas écrit, ce qui n’était… pas exactement mon plan. Au début, je pensais simplement faire une courte pause. J’avais besoin d’un peu d’espace pour me retrouver, pour absorber certains changements dans ma vie, et — même si je partage souvent à partir de mon vécu personnel — je ne voulais pas écrire depuis un endroit trop à vif. Mais la pause s’est prolongée, parce que parfois la vie ne se réorganise pas selon le rythme d’une...
about 2 months ago • 5 min readWhen Change Finds You
Hello Reader, It has been almost a month since I last wrote, which was... not exactly my plan. At first, I thought I was taking a short break. I needed a little space to catch up with myself, to absorb some life changes, and — even though I often share from my personal life — I didn’t want to write from a place that was too raw. But then the pause became longer, because sometimes life does not reorganize itself according to the rhythm of a newsletter, a calendar, or whatever plan we had made...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read